Could you fall in love with a much younger gentleman?

When we asked on Facebook whether you could fall for a man 25 years younger (like 64-year-old Brigitte Macron, the wife of the new 39-year-old president of France), we were amazed (and delighted) by the big response. The post received almost 42,000 views, and 250 women weighed in. While many FOFs said “no way,” others weren’t quite so definitive. We love Melanie’s comment!

I taught my son to love with his heart, and to be open minded. Race, religion, same sex, disability don’t matter. Loving the person you’re with, that’s something to explore. And being happy is a treasure. I’d hope I could think the same way.”
Priscilla Witt

Guys date/marry much younger women and no one blinks. I say, good for her! Next.”
Barbara Winslow

“No. I was married to someone for over 32 years, together for over 33, who was five years younger, and there were always subtle differences, throughout our years together. In the end, I think it made a difference, to him.  

“I could not fathom being with someone who could be my son. About all you would have in common is sex. And that only goes so far.”
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Should you wear high heels after 50?

Bring up the subject of wearing heels, and women respond as if you’re starting a debate about religion or politics. They have a lot to say for and against the practice. Here are some of our favorite positions, on both sides of the issue!

“Never. After a lifetime of having to dress up for my job, when I left to become self employed, I threw away all my heels and panty hose. And my back and my toes thank me every day.”

Mary Tracy Hollifield

“When I wanna feel SEXY!”

Wendy G. Lax-Bryant

“High heels? Never. Have you ever seen an X-ray of feet in high heels/stilettos? You’d never wear them again. LOL I do wear a lower heel though if an occasion calls for it.”

Debbie Summers

“Never. Women look utterly ridiculous teetering around in them. And OLD women who wear them to try to look young appear as ridiculous as a bald old guy with a comb-over.”

Donna Dee

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Is there a favourite child in your family?

When we asked if you have a ‘favourite’ child, many of you diplomatically said they’re all your favourites. Destiny offered the cleverest answer of all! And Patti’s definitely was insightful.

“I have a favouite. It changes all the time. But yes. LOL”
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“I would like to say, ‘I hope not,’  but I think some do. Each of mine is my favourite for different reasons; be it in their accomplishments, or because of their heart. I love them equally and am blessed to call them, ‘MINE’.”
Paulette Greyn

“Calling a child a favourite has no bearing on the amount of love you feel for all your children. I love all four of my children equally, it’s limitless. I am, however, closest to my second oldest. We just have a stronger bond. As simple as that.”
Geri Show-Gilbert

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10 tips for your kids when they move out on their own

At last, your “child” is moving out of your house, into his own place, and you can’t wait to be enveloped in peace and quiet. Not so fast! Unless you arm him with some practical advice before he’s out the door, chances are he’ll be back at your door sooner than you think.

1. Leave an extra set of keys with us (because we know how forgetful you can be).

2. Don’t use a stepladder unless someone is there to spot you.

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10 signs that your (adult) kid is dating someone new

If only our kid would kindly clue us in when he brings a new special someone into his life.

But alas, we’re usually among the last to officially know. Luckily, we’ve still got our psychic skills, which we’ve been honing ever since our “baby” developed his first crush.

Herewith, FabOverFifty presents the collective wisdom of some of our best supernatural moms. Once you spot your offspring exhibiting any of these signs, you can bet your sweet bippy she’s into someone new. (Of course, this applies to your daughter, too!)

She buys a new comforter and/or sheets

He loses weight and signs up for a gym membership

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She starts to have secretive phone conversations

She texts even more than usual (and smiles while she is doing it)

She often wears new clothes

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How mother-daughter relationships evolve

As a high school freshman, I’d sneak out of the house to make out with my 11th grade boyfriend in Manhattan’s Central Park. Now, as a recent college graduate, my boyfriend (a different guy) is a frequent topic of discussion and a regular visitor. I let my mom know when I’m planning to spend the night at his apartment, and find myself confiding in her more than I do in my friends, something my high school self never would have imagined. 

What’s changed in these last eight years to make stealthy getaways and off-limit topics things of the past?

I went straight to the source, my mom, to find out. “I now consider our times together as shared experiences vs. teachable moments, when I could give you perspective and values,” she told me. “At this point, I think you’ve demonstrated that you know them, so I don’t need to sit around ‘teaching’ you now, which is kind of liberating for me. You also have become my go-to person for advice on everything from sample sale shopping to book recommendations and the college application process for your younger brothers.”


Like me, mom revealed she’s been giving our relationship a great deal of thought.

Her friends have told her they’re committed to cultivating ‘best friend’ relationships with their daughters, but, previously, that didn’t feel quite right to her. I decided to find out for myself if other mothers had indeed made the transition from policewoman to pal. (more…)

Why you must update your wardrobe…now!

Is your closet filled with clothes you seldom, if ever, wear?

Do you try to keep your wardrobe au courant with the trends, but wind up looking silly?

Are you wearing the same style of clothes you wore 20 years ago, maybe even the exact same clothes?

Have you stopped caring about looking really good, and prefer to stick with sweats and tees because they’re comfortable, and besides who do you need to impress?

Does shopping intimidate, frustrate or depress you?

If you’ve answered yes to even one of these questions, you might want to give Terry Gibralter a call and learn how to choose clothes that make you look–and feel–absolutely terrific.

I was enchanted by Terry’s style the moment I first laid eyes on her–in the elevator of the building where we both lived. She’s what my grandmother used to call a stylish woman: “Put together!” And, if you go shopping with Terry, she’ll help put you together, and she “promises” that the experience will be“more creative, inspiring, quicker and more fun than you can possibly imagine.”

A former stylist for Elle Magazine, and then an advertising executive for many years, Terry realized how much she missed working in the fashion business when she recently helped a friend, who is a “remarkable jewelry designer,” to style models for a couple of video and print shoots. You can learn more about Terry here, and take a “stroll” through her fab online boutique. But first, read about her philosophy of dressing for FOFs and about why her
H*O*T* new shopping service might be the answer to your dressing doldrums.

PLEASE EXPLAIN HOW YOUR SHOPPING SERVICE WORKS AND WHAT MOTIVATED YOU TO CREATE IT

“It was sort of a no-brainer because it’s something I’ve done before. The service takes into account every aspect of shopping. We start with your closet and understand what you need, what you don’t need, then you go from there and shop. You shouldn’t go shopping with without a mission. I’ll help you figure out who you are, style wise, and how to build a wardrobe based on that. The process will make it easier to dress in the morning.

“I recently helped a woman in her early fifties. who is the head of account management at an ad agency. She’s always dressed up for work, and is now feeling ‘dated’ in an office where young women dress in pieces like jeans, tees and sweatshirts all the time. She wanted help around her ‘casual’ wardrobe so she could look ‘effortlessly casual.’

“We spent a couple of hours together where I asked her 10 questions about how she sees her style and her life, how she shops, and her budget. I then created style mood boards showing her what to wear with what, and how she could incorporate updated, casual pieces into her wardrobe.

“For another client I spent from 9 to 5 helping her redo her closets because she wanted them to look like mine. OMG, did I throw out stuff. That was easy because I had no emotional attachment to her things.”

CAN AN OLDER WOMAN DRESS YOUNGER?

“No matter how important a young woman’s job is today, she often just throws on jeans and tees and can still look good. When you’re young, you think you’re pretty damn perfect. Things are more forgiving when you’re in your 20s. Young people don’t even realize it when they don’t look good, but because they’re young, they get a pass. When you’re older, dressing becomes more challenging. You might have put on weight, for example, and you can look crazy if you throw on the same type of clothing that young women are wearing.

“Not everyone knows how to make new styles work and how to successfully update their wardrobes. That’s where I can help.”

DO YOU THINK WOMEN IN THEIR MID FORTIES, AND UP, SHOULD MAKE THE EFFORT TO CHANGE THEIR STYLES WITH THE TIMES, EVEN IF THEY’VE STOPPED WORKING?

“You won’t look good if you’re wearing the same clothing and hairstyle that you wore 20 years ago, and don’t update your style.  Styles change. I see women in their eighties all the time who still care. It’s life affirming. One woman had nicely cropped white hair, and was wearing a simple white, crisp shirt, a beautiful big necklace,  narrow trousers, great sandals and a great little bag in her hand. She looked like she stepped out of a fashion shoot. I understand it’s harder to change your style  if you don’t live in an urban environment, and you spend a lot of time in your car and aren’t seen as much as women in big cities.

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“I see older women either stop caring about the way they look, or just keep doing what they’ve done for years.  Their lives may be difficult and they don’t have the spare time to devote to fashion. I think fashion is very important. It’s how we face the world. It’s what people see before we open own mouths. We’re being judged by how we look.  It does matter, even if we say it doesn’t.”

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My Husband Was Addicted To Sex!

Charlotte is as pretty as her name. She’s in her early fifties, and was born abroad, although her slight accent doesn’t give away where. She married a man from another continent, decades her senior, and they raised their son in the United States, where they launched a successful business together. Charlotte was his third wife.

Anyone meeting them would swear she was the love of this man’s life. And, were it not for his sexual addiction, she might very well have been.

Even after Charlotte found out about her husband’s wandering ways, and he vowed they were over, he continued to betray her trust. She had enough when he claimed he was on yet another business trip, but she heard him greet his lover in the hotel room (he accidentally left his cell phone on after he and Charlotte talked.) She was sad, but she wasn’t surprised. (more…)

What Life Was Like Before The Internet

WE ASKED WHAT YOU MOST MISS ABOUT LIFE BEFORE THE INTERNET.

HERE ARE SOME OF OUR FAVORITE COMMENTS. IT’S FUN TO LEARN WHAT OUR FOFRIENDS THINK ABOUT BIG–and little--issues.

“We have lost face-to-face interaction or talking on the phone; it’s now messaging or texting. If I had a choice of going back to how things were in the good old days, or having them stay as they are today, I would go back.”
Gail Sampson

“I miss really feeling the love with smiles and laughter of my whole family with the attention focused on each other. We had some really good times back in the day!” Rhonda Berry

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10 signs you need to simplify your life

No one ever told us that life would get more complicated, just when we thought it would become a breeze! FabOverFifty offers 10 clues that will reveal it’s time to simplify your life:

1. You live in a 2,500-square-foot house, but spend 90% of your time in about 450 square feet.

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